Equipping young women professionals with young families to find fulfillment, contentment and joy as mothers and home makers without losing sight of who they are as women.

Volume 07, Issue 12: Extend Kindness

Happy Mother’s Day to all mothers. Today I came across a Mother’s Day message that resonated with my heart and thought to share part of it to inspire all of us unto kindness, men and women alike. I realized that we always forget other mothers out there on a day like today. May we educate ourselves and not be guilty of this again.

Happy Mother’s Day to every mother that has chosen to love a child born by another woman, whether by choice or circumstantial – loving children not born of your womb, but your heart. Giving them a chance to love and be loved.

Happy Mother’s Day to every woman who has had to deal with loss of a child or a pregnancy. Even though your nest may still be empty, you are a mother too.

Happy Mother’s Day to every waiting woman. Every woman who has waited longingly for it to be their turn. Secretly dealing with the struggles of infertility, negative tests, empty wombs, empty hearts. Happy Mother’s Day because one day God may fill your heart, and your arms. In His time.

Some of such mothers don’t only have to deal with the pain of childlessness. They also have to put up with our negative energy, silent judgement and crushing comments. It is not their fault. No woman has the power to make a child. It is God who gives children. We must know that. Extend some loving kindness and treat them like mothers because they are mothers too.

Every one faces a struggle of sorts sometimes. Extend kindness because you don’t what someone may be going through. May your words bear healing for someone.

Lillian Chebosi

Volume 07, Issue 11: Settle the Issue of Trust

We can certainly look back in our lives and recount instances where God undertook for us. Yet unless we settle the issue of trust, we lapse back to worry and distress whenever a new challenge crops up. It’s time to grow up and trust, because that is what separates us from everyone else when trouble strikes.

Build your trust in God from what you have seen him do for you and others. Don’t be troubled by trouble. You have seen God make a way for you time and time again. When a problem comes, remind yourself of that and remain steadfast in your faith. Daniel had seen God nourish him and his friends supernaturally. He then knew God could take care of him if he continues seeking him against the King’s orders.

Daniel had settled the issue of trust from what he had seen God do for him. He defied the King’s orders and continued to seek God as he had always done. Having withstood a trial before by refusing to eat food offered to idols, he knew he could withstand the consequences of not bowing down to idols. He trusted that God could take care of him even if he ended up in the lion’s den.

Daniel’s friends also had no problem trusting God. They didn’t care whether God would choose to deliver them or let them perish in the hot furnace. That did not matter. What mattered was that they knew in whom they had trusted, and it didn’t matter whether they lived or died. Their conviction was so deep they told the King, “Your threat means nothing to us. If you throw us in the fire, the God we serve can rescue us from your roaring furnace and anything else you might cook up, O king. But even if he doesn’t, it wouldn’t make a bit of difference, O King. We still wouldn’t serve your gods or worship the statute you set up.” It wasn’t a subject for deliberation or discussion, the issue was settled for them. Now, that’s the kind of trust we should aim for.

Note that Daniel’s friends said “God can”, not “God will”. Trusting God is leaving the matter in God’s hands, and being content with how he chooses to answer. Things don’t always turn out the way we want them to, but God makes all things work together for good for those who love him.

David wrote that all his years on earth, he had never seen the righteous forsaken. So why do we fret when we should be knowing this? Unless these are just words and not revelation for us. These words are true. I have faced different troubles over time, but not once has any trouble overtaken me. I don’t always get what I think I want, but God makes all things work together for good.

God has a track record of keeping his word. Just like you, I have seen God do amazing things – making a way, working miracles, keeping promises, rescuing, delivering, protecting, healing, mending, restoring, promoting. Oh, I wish I had a wall of remembrance for answered prayers and all, but I keep records on my journals. We may face many troubles, but God has promised to deliver us from them all, if we trust him.

I have come to appreciate that I am not smart enough to run my life. So I leave it to the one who knows all things, and enjoy my life while God works on whatever problem I may be facing. Worrying implies that if you think hard and long enough, you will figure out how to solve your problem. You settle the issue of trust when you realize you are not smart enough to solve your problems.

Where do you see your situation taking you? Does it look completely hopeless? God is not God only in the not-so-difficult situations. God is God in small and big challenges alike. A friend of mine recently told me something life changing. She said, “You trust God for a million shillings the same way you trust him for a hundred shillings”. This applies in every situation in life. Don’t pick and choose what God can or cannot do. He is God.

Call back on what God has done for you and seen you through in the past and choose to trust him completely. It doesn’t matter how complex your situation is. Nothing could possibly be too big or too small for God. Settle the issue of trust once and for all, and turn your back on worry.

Lillian Chebosi

Volume 07, Issue 10: Trust God to Take Care of You

When King Nebuchadnezzar of Babylon declared war on Jerusalem and besieged the city, he took with him some Israelites from the royal family and nobility. These were young men who were healthy and handsome, intelligent and well-educated, good prospects for leadership positions in his government. The King intended to indoctrinate them in the Babylonian language and the lore of magic and fortunetelling.

Daniel and his three friends were among those selected. The King ordered that they be served from the same menu as the royal table – the best food, the finest wine. After three years of training, they would be given positions in the king’s court.

Daniel and his friends gave up the opportunity to enjoy the delicacies of the palace for the sake of honouring God. They requested to be exempt from the royal diet. Some of us can barely sacrifice regular food for one day to draw near to God.

Daniel trusted that if he sacrificed the king’s food, the best of the best in the land, God would see to it that he and his friends wind up stronger, healthier, and better looking than those who took the land’s best.

How do you trust God to take care of you like that? The king offered them the best so they could turn out healthy and strong, fit for his service. But determined to not defile themselves, Daniel and his friends quietly turned it down.

God takes care of his. At the end of the training, the Bible records that Daniel and his friends looked better and more robust than all the other young men who ate from the royal menu.

Our own understanding says ‘no way’. There’s no way a meal of vegetables and water for three years could possibly beat a daily royal feast to turn out stronger and healthier. But God nourished Daniel and his friends supernaturally. They turned out far superior than the rest of the young men in training with them.

Surely God is able to do immeasurably above and beyond what we could dare think or imagine. In addition to nourishing them physically, God gave these four young men knowledge and skill in both books and life. When the King interviewed them at the end of the training, he found them far superior to all the other young men. None were a match for Daniel, Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego.

The Bible records that Daniel’s wisdom was ten times better than that of all the magicians and enchanters in the kingdom put together; ten times better than all the experts put together. Imagine that!

That’s the kind of God we serve. May this revelation build our faith to know that we can do all things, and have all that God has destined us to do and have. And why is that? Because we are the righteousness of God. We have right standing with God; not because we do everything right, but because we love him and we are in Christ. We have been justified and made right with God by the blood of the Lamb.

I am persuaded that there’s no other way but to trust God in all things. Let us learn to have our first response to challenges be ‘I trust God’, not anxiety and complaining. Daniel and his friends were God-fearing men. They had already been captured from home and taken captive into a foreign land, yet they trusted God. They trusted God to take care of them even in captivity.

It was God's idea to deliver the children of Israel from Egypt. That rescue plan wasn't a mass murder mission. God had a good plan for them - freedom and prosperity. He didn't deliver them from the tyranny of Egypt and across the red sea only to have them die of thirst or starve to death or perish by the sword of their enemies on the way home. Yet they didn't trust him to take care of their needs for water and food, and to defeat their enemies on the way. Whenever they faced a challenge, they responded by complaining. They failed every test. Determine to pass the tests you face in life by responding with trust and praise.

Trust God when things are going well, and when things are not going so well. Trust God on the mountain top, and trust God in the valley. Many times we ask God ‘why?’ when faced with problems. Daniel and his friends could have doubted God for letting them get captured along with sinners. God didn’t exempt them from that trouble and humiliation. But they trusted him. Instead of complaining, they trusted God, and God took care of them.

The righteous are as bold as a lion. Anything God has said you can have for his sake and for the sake of his Kingdom, you should not take no for an answer – Joyce Meyer. Don’t compromise to get ahead. Trust God to take care of you. No matter your circumstances, choose to trust God.

Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he’s the one who will keep you on track.

Lillian Chebosi

Volume 07, Issue 09: Complain and Remain

The Israelites took 40 years to take an 11 day journey. It wasn’t their enemies that held them back. It was their attitudes, and one of them was complaining – Joyce Meyer. That complaining generation of the children of Israel died in the wilderness. They did not make it to the Promised Land. They died, though not from hunger, because manna never stopped, until the succeeding generation made it to the Promised Land.

We complain about the government not doing its work. We complain about taxes being too hefty. We complain about our bosses. We complain about our pastors not making church more entertaining for us. We complain about water shortage and power rationing in our neighborhoods. We complain about the high cost of living. We complain about the landlord raising rent unprecedentedly.

Don’t complain about your job when you trusted God for it for years. Don’t complain about the high bills that come with where you are in life when you believed God to promote you. Don’t complain about your children when you prayed hard to have them. Don’t complain about your spouse when you hardly ever pray for him or her.

Get a vision. Instead of complaining about high rent, get a vision to own your own house someday. Instead of complaining about high prices, get a vision to have more than enough for yourself and others, so you won’t be concerned by how much things cost. Instead of complaining about your children, get a vision to bring them up right so they turn out delightful to live with. Pray for them to be all God created them to be.

When you praise you are raised, when you complain you remain. A lot of people never get to where they are going because they never stop complaining about where they are – Joyce Meyer.

Are you stuck in the same stage for ages when you know that’s not all that God had in mind for you? Has a promotion been eluding you because of your attitude? Are you complaining about your house because you want a bigger one? Are you complaining about your husband never taking your family out to eat on the weekends like your neighbors? Thank God you have enough to put food on the table.

Don’t complain about your old car, because you could as well take the bus. Thank God for the privilege of having a car. If you take the bus, thank God for the blessing of having the means to pay bus fare, because some people have to walk long distances for not having enough to ride on a bus. If you walk for lack of cash, thank God for the opportunity to get some good exercise on your way to where you are going.

I never want to get over the point that the children of Israel took 40 years to take an 11 day trip. Imagine that! Could you be going round the same mountains over and over again because of your attitude? Are you murmuring and complaining yourself further and further away from your desired end - job, promotion, house, relationship, or whatever your dream is?

How are you responding to situations in your life? The more we complain about a situation, the longer we remain in it – Joyce Meyer. Choose progress. Stop complaining. Thank God for where you are and get a vision for where you want to be and run with it.

Lillian Chebosi

Volume 07, Issue 08: Appreciate God’s Provision

Today at Church I was inspired by a lot of the message, but most particularly a word on God’s provision in the wilderness. We have seen people make it through tough times, seasons of joblessness and lack. Maybe you can think of a season in your own life when things were tight. I remember a time like that of my own more than a decade ago. But we didn’t starve to death or something of sorts.

As the children of Israel journeyed through the wilderness from Egypt to the Promised Land, God fed them on manna, the food of angels. They had manna in the morning, manna in the noon time, and manna in the evening – Pastor Charles Obara.

As time passed by, the wilderness and the desert took its toll on them. They did what they did best, murmur and complain. They even got tired of the manna, detested the food of angels that God faithfully fed them on – Pastor Charles Obara. They craved other delicacies. God sent them quail, but after a while they complained about that too.

God sees us through our wilderness seasons. You may be out of a job at the moment, there’s no income yet there’s manna to see you through the wilderness – Pastor Charles Obara.

Don’t complain about your manna. It’s God’s mercies available to you, to keep you going until the promise – Pastor Charles Obara.

Your manna could be a meagre pay from a crappy job, or handouts from family and friends, a tiny house, the same wardrobe for what seems like ages, or a meal of something like ‘ugali’ and ‘sukuma wiki’ day-in, day-out. Granted, manna could get really boring, but imagine if you didn’t have it. You know you wouldn’t make it without it.

Do not despise God’s provision in your wilderness season. As the children of Israel complained, God sent venomous snakes which bit them, and many of them died. Then they realized they had sinned – Pastor Charles Obara.

That complaining generation of the children of Israel died in the wilderness. They did not make it to the Promised Land. They died, though not from hunger, because God’s provision never stopped, until the succeeding generation made it to the Promised Land.

Could you be keeping yourself from what you are believing for by your attitude? Are you murmuring and complaining yourself further away from your Promised Land? Appreciate God’s provision on your way to where you are going.

Lillian Chebosi