Equipping young women professionals with young families to find fulfillment, contentment and joy as mothers and home makers without losing sight of who they are as women.

Volume 13, Issue 23: Live A Great Life

There are many ways to live a great life. Yet some of us limit our happiness to certain outcomes. I was elated to comprehend that I can still have a great life even if some of the outcomes I pursue don't materialize.

As much as we all want certain things in life, we don't always get what we want, when we want them. But this doesn't mean that we can't have a great life. After all, there are many ways to live a great life.

Not everyone who desires marriage gets married. Equally so, not everyone who is married has a great marriage. Not every couple gets children. As such, we should not allow the quality of our lives to be dictated by what we get or don't get.

If God designed each of us to be happy only if we have certain things, then He wouldn't instruct us to rejoice at all times. He knows that we don't always have what we want, yet He commands us to be always joyful. This means that He wants us to have a great life irrespective of what we have or don't have.

As such, going by your circumstances, you should believe,

• "Even if I stay single, I'll still have a great life."
• "Even if my marriage never improves, I'll still have a great life."
• "Even if I never get children, I'll still have a great life."
• "Even if I don't get into this school, I'll still have a great life."
• "Even if I don't get this job, I'll still have a great life."
• "Even if I don't succeed with this business, I'll still have a great life."

The way to live is from a position of power. The Bible says that "God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind." We may not have everything we want, but we have power among other great tools. We should therefore not allow our circumstances keep us from having a great life.

Sure, you may want to get married, or to get children, or for the relationship to work or to get your next job quickly - and you give it your best effort. But you should realize that if it doesn't work out, you will be just fine.

When you explore life from a position of power, you do your best for the things you want, but you are not hang up on what doesn't work out. You choose to live a great life anyway, because there are many ways to live a great life.

For His Glory,

Lillian Chebosi