Equipping young women professionals with young families to find fulfillment, contentment and joy as mothers and home makers without losing sight of who they are as women.

Volume 13, Issue 30: Choose Your "How"

Life has a way of surprising us. In some cases, a young individual may lose both parents tragically and find themselves in a position of having to take care of their younger siblings.

Sometimes, a wife may lose a husband and have to step up to be the sole breadwinner and parent to her children. Other times, incapacitation, or divorce, or a spouse's loss of a job, or their refusal to find paying work may leave the other spouse with the sole responsibility of taking care of a household.

In some instances, a chronic illness of a child, or spouse, or parent may require an individual to commit themselves to the responsibility of being a dedicated caregiver to the ailing family member.

Sometimes, parents find themselves having to bear the weight of dealing with a difficult or rebellious teenager. Yet still, an individual in the prime of life may find themselves struck with a debilitating illness, or unemployed for an extended period.

There are burdens that we bring upon ourselves by our own irresponsible actions. But there are also those that we just find ourselves in. As James Clear nicely put it, "You don't always get to choose the load, but you can choose how to carry it."

Once you admit and comprehend the load in front of you, you can come to your senses and deliberate with yourself how you are going to go about carrying the load. Granted, the situation may be difficult, and/or painful, and/or unfair, but you get to choose how are going to show up in the situation. That is entirely your prerogative.

For His Glory,

Lillian Chebosi