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Volume 13, Issue 32: Radical Acceptance

There comes a time for some of us when we realize that something we have been fixated on changing or improving isn't going to change. When we come to that realization, we admit to ourselves that we have been living in denial, trying so hard to fix or change something that we will never be able to fix or change.

Radical acceptance is when you accept the situations in your life for what they are, and when you accept the people in your life for who they are and how they carry themselves. Radical acceptance is when you throw your hands in the air and say, "It is what it is."

I like how Cathy Morenzie, a leader in health and wellness industry put it in her post yesterday. "Here's what we need to accept so that we can move forward proactively:

  • Accept where you are in your life without making yourself right or wrong
  • Accept the choices you have made in your life
  • Accept your habits, behaviors, and patterns
  • Accept all the mistakes you continue to make
  • Accept that you're 100% responsible for how you feel right now, and at every given moment
  • Accept that you're unable to change yourself
  • Accept the things in your life that may never change
  • Accept that it's your subconscious feelings and emotions that keep you stuck
  • Accept that God is in control and He will work in your favor.

When you accept everything about your life, without judgement or rationalizations, that's when you can truly humble yourself and move through the messy middles."


For His Glory,

Lillian Chebosi



Volume 13, Issue 31: Enhance Mental Toughness

I have found that achieving mental toughness is a journey. It is not something you gain once and you are good to go for the rest of life. Rather, it is something you keep working on and that gets tested every time you face trying situations and people.

Developing mental toughness involves continuous effort, practice, and experience over time. It requires building resilience, maintaining a positive mindset, and learning from challenges and setbacks.

Cultivating mental toughness requires habitual actions that reinforce resilience and determination over time. By cultivating mental toughness, you enhance your ability to handle difficult situations and people effectively.

Just like physical fitness, mental toughness needs regular maintenance and development to stay strong and effective. It can be developed and strengthened through regular, intentional actions.

If you find yourself constantly requiring to rely on your mental toughness, here are some key habits that if done regularly, would enhance your mental toughness:


  • Practice positive self-talk: Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations to build a resilient mindset.
  • Set goals: Break down larger goals into smaller manageable tasks to maintain motivation and focus.
  • Embrace challenges: View challenges as opportunities for growth rather than threats.
  • Practice mindfulness and meditation: Do this to enhance emotional regulation and reduce stress.
  • Engage in physical exercise: Regular physical activity boosts mental wellbeing and resilience.
  • Maintain healthy routines: Consistent sleep, nutrition and hydration habits support mental health.
  • Learn from failure: Analyze setbacks to understand and learn from them.
  • Practice gratitude: Regularly acknowledge and appreciate positive aspects of life to foster a positive attitude.
  • Develop coping strategies: Have a toolkit of strategies for managing stress and anxiety.
  • Build a support network: Surround yourself with supportive and positive individuals who encourage your growth.


For His Glory,

Lillian Chebosi



Volume 13, Issue 30: Choose Your "How"

Life has a way of surprising us. In some cases, a young individual may lose both parents tragically and find themselves in a position of having to take care of their younger siblings.

Sometimes, a wife may lose a husband and have to step up to be the sole breadwinner and parent to her children. Other times, incapacitation, or divorce, or a spouse's loss of a job, or their refusal to find paying work may leave the other spouse with the sole responsibility of taking care of a household.

In some instances, a chronic illness of a child, or spouse, or parent may require an individual to commit themselves to the responsibility of being a dedicated caregiver to the ailing family member.

Sometimes, parents find themselves having to bear the weight of dealing with a difficult or rebellious teenager. Yet still, an individual in the prime of life may find themselves struck with a debilitating illness, or unemployed for an extended period.

There are burdens that we bring upon ourselves by our own irresponsible actions. But there are also those that we just find ourselves in. As James Clear nicely put it, "You don't always get to choose the load, but you can choose how to carry it."

Once you admit and comprehend the load in front of you, you can come to your senses and deliberate with yourself how you are going to go about carrying the load. Granted, the situation may be difficult, and/or painful, and/or unfair, but you get to choose how are going to show up in the situation. That is entirely your prerogative.


For His Glory,

Lillian Chebosi



Volume 13, Issue 29: Make It Effortless

There are actions that we must or want to take each day to make life beautiful. Yet sometimes we dread to take them because of the effort involved in taking them. But there's a better way, a way that would ensure that we stay motivated to take the actions and do so without fail.

If it's cleaning your house, can you think of ways to make the task effortless? Can you simply the process?

If it's exercising, can you think of ways to make your workouts pleasurable? Is there music you would like to listen to while you exercise? Can you shifts your workouts to ones that you find pleasurable?

If it is reading, can you focus on reading material that is interesting and enjoyable to you? Could you do find a reading place that feels luxurious to you?

For mundane tasks such as cooking or cleaning or ironing, can you plan to turn on captivating podcasts to listen to while you do them?

Just because things have to be done doesn't mean they have to be hard. Life is to be enjoyed. So find ways to simplify your life. Find ways to make your activities effortless.


For His Glory,

Lillian Chebosi



Volume 13, Issue 28: Good Days

If you are anything like me, you want your days to count for something. You want your days to be great and productive. You want to feel accomplished at the end of the day. Even on a day you have set aside for rest, you want to know that you not only rested well, but that you also ticked some productivity boxes that did not take away from your rest.

You may also be the type of person who wants to look back at your day or week and feel that you served well, and that you loved the people that were in your path. You want to feel that you showed up well, and as such honored God in the way you lived.

We are not the kind of people who are content to sit around watching shows all day when in between jobs. Rather, we are the kind of people who find and make opportunities to be productively engaged in activities that meaningfully occupy our days. We also maximize opportunities for growth and learning.

Even in a waiting season that can be challenging, we are intentional about having good days. We cultivate habits that have us do things that make us feel successful. Irrespective of the season you are currently in, consider reflecting on these questions from James Clear. "When you are living a good day, what is one habit that tends to be part of that day? Can you find time for that habit today?"


For His Glory,

Lillian Chebosi