Equipping young women professionals with young families to find fulfillment, contentment and joy as mothers and home makers without losing sight of who they are as women.

Volume 02, Issue 34: Personal Makeover III: Image

For most opportunities in life, you have only one shot to get the attention of the people with the power to promote you. You’ve got to be ready for the camera when the lights go on. When opportunity meets preparation, things happen - doors open, favour is released, a promotion is extended to you, a proposal is made to you – if you know how to dress the part.

Some of us don’t place much emphasis to our physical appearance. How you look, in terms of the attire and accessories you present yourself in before people in a position to advance your standing in life matters. People look at what is obvious to the eye. Your exterior should complement the genius you present to the table. The first impression people get of you may determine whether or not they extend to you the opportunity you are qualified for.

What we wear says a lot about us. What is the image you would like to leave behind? Present that image going in. Most of us dress outstandingly once in a while, maybe twice in a week, then for the rest of the week, anything goes. If this is your style, it’s confusing. Decide what your style is and customize your wardrobe accordingly, so that whichever day of the week it is, you are presenting the same polished look.

Most of us wear clothes that don’t flatter our form. Invest in an image consultant to help you determine what shapes work best for your body type and size; the fabric, and the colour shades that match you skin tone. This insight goes a long way in boosting your confidence in your image.

Dress in a way that causes others to look twice, though nothing you are wearing should be screaming for attention. What counts is the colour, the fabric, and the fit. Well-fitting garments – neither tight nor loose, always look better. Avoid trendy pieces and cheap imitations. Keep it real and classic. Classic cuts stand the test of time. They are never out of style and always look good.

This type of dressing can be achieved at any price point. Wherever you shop, the same high-level look can be achieved. It’s simply a matter of taste and some discerning choices about fabric and cut.

We see ladies who insist on wearing high heels that they cannot walk in. Buy shoes that don’t throw your posture out of line and you can walk gracefully in. Some of us are flat-footed. Pick shoes that complement your line of legs.

Don’t ignore the little things that complete your toilette – a good manicure and pedicure, and finished brows. If you wear makeup, stick with a classic, natural look. Take care in matching skin tones and find one that looks natural. Makeup should be an enhancer, not a mask.

Find the look that’s great for you and stick with it - classic, simple and contemporary, while always exhibiting a high-level look. Always dress from your head to your toes as if you are one complete picture. Everything should work in harmony to put you in the best light.

Treat your clothing and accessories as investments - investments in your image. Keep a fine wardrobe. It shouldn’t matter the occasion, you can maintain the same high level look with formal, smart casual, or casual wear.

Lillian Chebosi

Volume 02, Issue 33: Personal Makeover II: Relationships

It’s worthwhile to take stock of our relationships every now and then, see which of them we want to keep, which ones we want to rearrange, and the ones we want to flush out.

In evaluating your relationships, make a list of people you want to emulate – the characteristics you admire about them; those who inspire you and how they inspire you; those who are toxins to flush out; those who are hindrances - obstacles in your life; those who are distractions - a waste of your time; and the friends you want to hold on to.

The goal of personal renovation for relationships is to develop excellent relationships. Some of us hang on to relationships that no longer serve us, sometimes even to ones that are clearly detrimental to our well being. We need to shake off the false sense of responsibility and love ourselves enough to only be in relationships that are taking us somewhere.

Disentangle yourself from dead-end business relationships. When you realize that your input is constantly not being reciprocated by those in your mastermind group, maybe it’s time to find yourself another group, one that will take you to the next level in business. Sometimes we need to get ourselves a mastermind group of people at a higher level than ourselves, to take us to a higher level in our thinking.

Find yourself mentors and coaches, people who will walk alongside you to spur you to stretch to your potential and experience transformation in various areas of your life. Connect with mature and experienced personalities who will usher you to the next level and hold you accountable. Find mentors for the various areas in the wheel of life - relationships, spiritual growth and transformation, financial soundness, career and business, and so on. Don’t walk alone. Let there be a burning torch in every area of your life.

Are you single and constantly going out for coffee dates with one or multiple suitors? Where is that relationship going, is there an end in mind, or is the person you are relating with taking you for a ride? Don’t waste your time and emotions in pointless relationships. Love yourself enough to do dating with purpose. Be in relationships that are taking you to your desired destination. Don’t allow others play around with you. Know the value of your heart and body, and keep yourself pure. Don’t compromise your standards. Be willing to wait for the right moment to awaken love.

Sometimes we carry people along with us whose time in our lives has expired. Realize that some people come into your life just for a season. Release them, and free yourself for new relationships in the different seasons of your life. Some relationships are nothing but a pain but we feel we have to hang on to them. Apart from your spouse and children, you have no obligation to keep someone in your life indefinitely.

Throw out all the baggage. Be in relationships where you are celebrated, not tolerated. Surround yourself with the right support system, not a wrecking crew. Surround yourself with those who see and nurture your gifts and exhort you to be better than you already are.

Are there vital relationships in your life that you need to mend and repair? Are there some key relationships that you have neglected over time that you need to restore? Do you have any worn out and rusted important relationships that you need to give new to life to – fix up and refurbish? It’s your call. Don’t wait for the other parties to make the first move. Take responsibility to develop excellent relationships for yourself and others.

Lillian Chebosi

Volume 02, Issue 32: Personal Makeover I

Depending on our personalities, some of us hold on to things that no longer serve us, things that basically belong in the trash bin. Some of us hold on to the first bank accounts we ever opened when we got our first job or joined college, even when the bank is inefficient and has been outgrown by our needs. For some its old furniture, clothes, and if you are like me, you may still have your exercise books from college, if not high school!

We renovate our houses and offices from time to time; and sometimes we do a wardrobe makeover to give ourselves a new look. People are now doing metabolism makeover among other popular makeovers. But what about personal renovation? Just like renovating a house adds value to it, there certainly is value addition in taking time to take stock of our lives every now and then, see what we want to keep and what we want to throw out.

We see buildings under renovation covered up with sisal bags or iron sheets and wait in anticipation for the big reveal. When the covers are finally removed, we marvel at the transformation the building attains. Depending on where you are, it may be time to put up a mental sign that you are under renovation.

Personal renovation works wonders from the inside out. It has to do with all areas of life. Part of it is our relationships, finances, image, attitudes, the things we value, our habits, our lifestyles, our health, the way we spend our time, our preoccupations, the list is endless.

Is it time to build a better you? Consider asking yourself the following questions reflectively:

• Which areas of my life do I need to mend?
• Which areas of my life do I need to repair?
• Which areas of my life do I need to restore?
• Which areas of my life do I need to fix up?
• Which areas of my life do I need to refurbish?

Then take action. Build a better you.

Lillian Chebosi

Volume 02, Issue 31: Touching the Heart of God

David desired to build a house for God. Having comfortably settled in Jerusalem, he reckoned that it was God’s help that had made him great. He said, “I am living in a beautiful cedar palace, but the ark of God is out there in a tent!”

This touched the heart of God in a big way. His response to David was heart rending. “Are you the one to build a house for me to live in?” All the other leaders of Israel before David had never thought of building a house for God. ”I took you from tending sheep in the pasture and selected you to be the leader of my people Israel. I have been with you wherever you have gone, and I have destroyed all your enemies before your eyes.”

In His response to David’s desire to build him a house, God touched David’s heart in return. He promised to make a house for David – a dynasty of Kings! That David’s kingdom would continue for all time, and his throne will be secure forever.

David was deeply touched by this response, and responded by worship. “Who am I, O Sovereign Lord, and what is my family, that you have brought me this far? And now, Sovereign Lord, in addition to everything else, you speak of giving your servant a lasting dynasty! Do you deal with anyone else this way, O Sovereign Lord? What can I say to you? How great you are, O Sovereign Lord! There’s none like you.”

That wasn’t all. God also promised to make David’s name as famous as anyone who had ever lived on earth! And give him rest from all his enemies.

David wasn’t the only beneficiary of this exchange. Because of David’s noble intention, God also promised to provide a homeland for his people Israel – to establish them in a secure place where they would never be disturbed, and that evil nations would not oppress them as they had done in the past. Surely David touched His heart big time.

In what ways can we touch God’s heart?

David fulfilled God’s purposes in his generation. How are we to live our lives, so that when it’s all over, it will be said of us that we fulfilled God’s purposes in our generation? Living life on purpose is a good place to start. Make it your goal to live your life in such a way that when you are gone, it would be said that you fulfilled God’s purposes in your generation.

Lillian Chebosi

Volume 02, Issue 30: Wisdom is Supreme

Wisdom is not just an accumulation of the right information; it is also the ability to apply it in one’s life. Hence the need to get understanding. Understanding cements your commitment to make wise choices and stick with doing the right thing even when you don’t feel like it.

Sense is not common. Educate yourself in order to have good sense in managing practical matters. Wisdom equips you with common sense and discernment which refresh your soul.

Learn the value of discretion. Good judgment and sensitivity to others are rare, but highly esteemed traits. Get wisdom, develop good judgment. Don’t turn your back on wisdom, for she will protect you. Love her and she will guard you. Getting wisdom is the wisest thing you can do and whatever else you do, develop good judgment.

The book of Proverbs contains universal truth – wisdom that will stick to the wall of our souls and prove its merit if we adhere to it.

Success begins with a healthy dose of wisdom. It is wisdom that will enable us to live disciplined and successful lives. Wisdom will give you common sense and success, insight and strength. The wise are mightier than the strong and those with knowledge grow stronger and stronger.

Wisdom serves rare delicacies. Her meals leave you full and satisfied - intoxicated with joy and peace. Nothing you desire can compare with her. Joyful is the person who finds wisdom, the one who gains understanding. For wisdom is more profitable than silver, and her wages are better than gold. She will offer you long life on one hand and riches and honour on the other. She will guide you down delightful paths, all her ways are satisfying.

Wisdom is supreme; therefore get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding. If you prize wisdom, she will make you great. Embrace her and she will honour you. She will place a lovely wreath on your head, and present you with a beautiful crown.

Wisdom is the key to life. It will multiply your days and add years to your life, affording you a long good life. Wisdom will lead you in straight paths. When you walk, you won’t be held back; when you run, you won’t stumble. Wise choices watch over us. Understanding will keep us safe.

Whatever you seek – be it a spouse, material possessions, friends, you will need wisdom to get them and keep them. Whoever finds wisdom finds life and receives favour from God. Wisdom is sweet to your soul. If you find it, you will have a bright future, and your hopes will not be cut short. With wisdom are riches and honour, enduring wealth and prosperity. A wise person wins friends.

Wisdom will teach you to live right and keep you from trouble. For wisdom walks in the way of righteousness, and along the paths of justice. Wisdom will help you do what is right, just and fair. All who listen to wisdom live in peace, untroubled by fear of harm.

Wisdom will afford you financial literacy and enduring riches. The wise have wealth and luxury, but fools spend whatever they get.

Lillian Chebosi